The Whisper Within

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Perfect or Prideful?

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I gotta admit, I wrote this blog months ago but never posted.Why ? Because I would have to completely rip-off my band-aid and show my ugly scab. Well, today I am ripping off the band-aid. Let the bleeding begin.

I’m not perfect.

Let me say again. I am not perfect.

Yep, several times this week I was told that I acted,or tried too hard to be perfect;not showing signs of weakness or sadness.
Here’s the week recap:

My thirteen year neighbor girl came over for dinner. We laughed.We giggled and then she said,”I have to admit I was nervous coming over to see you. You seem so perfect. You are actually fun and easy to be with.”

“Perfect? Why did you think that?”

“I don’t know you seem so put together; like always taking Kipper, your dog, for walks at the same time everyday .Organized.”
“Oh,trust me I’m far from perfect .”

Later in the week at a doctor’s appointment my doctor asked, “How are you feeling?”
I quickly responded,”I’m fine.I’m staying in the joy.”

“Staying in the joy? Lisa, it’s ok to say you hurt. In fact it is healthy to talk about it .Why do you feel like you have to hold it together?”

I lowered my head,“I don’t know. I feel the need to not complain about my sickness .”

“Lisa,it is ok to say you hurt . You aren’t perfect.”

Then today I opened my manuscript for my book. My editor had comments peppered throughout about me being self-admonishing and prideful. Ouch ! This hurts!

I looked at the computer screen, “Am I?”
The whole reason I have wrote the book is that others may trust God no matter what is tossed at them…it’s not supposed to be about “look what I have done but what has God accomplished?”

Maybe memoirs just suck. MAYBE memoirs are self-absorbed.
I walked the beach and cried .
I am sorry. I am so so sorry, God.

Is this you God?

Did all the years of hold everything together as a single mom, did I have too much pride? Did I put too much emphasis on the “I ” in the  Bible verse,” I can do everything  through Christ who gives me strength,” instead of on Christ?

Was my Lyme disease sickness allowed to prick at my pride?
In the Bible, Paul was afflicted with some disease so that he would not get puffed up.His disease was meant to humble him.

I AM HUMBLED.

For those of you who knew “sassy pants ”, that girl is gone. I am leveled. I am just me. And yes, I hurt. I am messy, just ask my kids about some of my eating habits or ask my friends the condition of the inside of my Jeep; far from perfect. And like Paul in the Bible, sometimes I am lonely.

Yes, I still desire a husband but maybe,just maybe, I WAS (emphasis on was) too independent, too self-sufficient to let a guy take care of me. I wanted to keep control.
Well, that girl is gone! I am ready to relinquish the reins and have someone take care of me for a change. The Band-aid is off. I willingly expose my scab, ugly and all.
As I walked the beach tonight I heard God whisper, “Get rid of your pride. You are not perfect.”
So here I am. No filter. No make-up. Just me.

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God has humbled me and made make a softer and a more vulnerable girl.
What is God whispering to you? Are you willing to listen?

“For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (TLB) 2 Corinthians 12:10

Author: Lisa A. Riehm

Hello! Thanks for stopping by. I have been single for the last fifteen years raising my two beautiful children, Jake ( 23) and Tarah (22). I am a native from Chicago but by listening to The ” Whispers Within” I have recently moved to Southern California. I love to run, hike, bike, swim, and practice core yoga. My inability to stay still helps me fit in my skinny jeans. I am Pollyanna to a tee. I choose to be happy and not settle for ordinary. I believe in the Fairytale , crave the butterflies, and surrender that God has the plan. Follow me on FB at The Whispers Within.

13 thoughts on “Perfect or Prideful?

  1. It’s funny how different people perceive us from the outside. Makes you wonder what the heck they are looking at! God’s perception is the only one that matters. Sounds like He is bringing you to a place of trusting Him instead of your own strength. And that’s where your new life will begin!

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  2. Of course you know I’ll come at this from an entirely different angle than anybody else 🙂 You are a product of the hard work you have put into both those around you, and yourself. There are lots of words that describe the way you appear to be – selfless, generous, optimistic – there doesn’t always have to be a puppeteer in control of everybody and everything – free will kind of flies in the face of all that… p.s. you’re awesome 🙂

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  3. Thank you lisa for being you and open. There are so many critics in this world. Write that book the way you feel it should be written. I want your 1 st copy. I love how you live life and take chances and most of all put your faith first. God bless you !

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  4. Lovely Lisa just like you

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  5. I so wish we all could do these things to open ourselves up and be natural the way He created us. Too many times pride gets in the way and destroys the dreams God nutures in our hearts. There are so many men and women like you who need to relinquish and trust God. He has the answer on His time.
    You have made the difficult moves to be where you are today. Be proud and be soft. We know you hurt but that’s ok. We hurt with you in our own way. You inspire us to live with it and joyfully hope for His answer.

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