The Whisper Within

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Finding strength in being a single mom

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July 4th 2001. Not single yet… but definitely beach bound.

 

I was not planning on blogging today but then  found  this picture . Looking at it  I see so many ironic messages . I was alone  even though I was married . I was headed to the beach; my happy place then and now.  The smiles were contagious . How could I be sad when I had my two greatest  gifts by my side? Even though the picture is faded and blurry,  I remember the day very clearly.  This was the day I found out that I needed to be brave and be single. Little did I know HOW brave I needed to be. Months later, I was divorced, financially broke, and my ex became a paraplegic.

” Always be full of Joy in the Lord; I say it again rejoice! Don’t worry about anything but pray about everything” Phillippians 4:6

Some say, ” Fake it to you make it,” or “A smile disguises a broken heart.” But I disagree. You don’t need to fake it.  TRUST God will give you answers and the courage to daily walk forward. He gave me the special gift of the Holy Spirit to guide me daily on my journey through the good, the bad ,and downright ugly.

Fifteen years later, I am still not married but I am not alone. Even though my kids are both in college and not glued to my hip, their smiles still make me contagiously happy. I don’t just visit my happy place on occasion , I moved there. Yes, to the beach. The picture is clearer now, too- literally and figuratively.

“Philippians 4:12 I have learned the secret of being content in every situation … I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength.”

 I trusted God  and he has given me the strength to be single. He whispered to me then that I would be alright and today I hear him loud and clear!  God has used my time of being single for a purpose. As a CFP(R) I teach  Women and Investing seminars to educate woman how to be financial independent. In addition, I lead a  single woman’s small group. We inspire each other to be strong and  be content – just where we are.

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All Grown up !

Author: Lisa A. Schomer

Hello! Thanks for stopping by. I am a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER TM. I have been single for the last fifteen years raising my two beautiful children, Jake ( 21) and Tarah (20). I am a native from Chicago but by listening to The ” Whispers Within” I have recently moved to Southern California. I love to run, hike, bike, swim, and practice core yoga. My inability to stay still helps me fit in my skinny jeans. I am Pollyanna to a tee. I choose to be happy and not settle for ordinary. I believe in the Fairytale , crave the butterflies, and surrender that God has the plan. Follow me on FB at The Whispers Within.

49 thoughts on “Finding strength in being a single mom

  1. Beautiful! I am really enjoying your inspiring, uplifting messages Lisa!

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  2. I love this. Thanks for sharing. I pray this brings hope to many people. Blessings.

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  3. Saleama~
    thanks ! I have heard our greatest misery becomes our ministry. I know this to be true. Blessings to you, Lisa

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  4. What a lovely pic of your bother, sister and you. Haha. Hope you have a lovely week.

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  5. So Nice.

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  6. This post has me all choked up! My ex-husband and I separated when our kids were 3 and 5 yrs old. It was always us against the world. Now both of my children are off in college (my son is a senior and my daughter is a sophomore) and I did remarry 2 yrs ago. When they were young I thought things were so hard. Now I look back on those days with great fondness. I wish we could go back, even if for one day.

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    • Aww. I agree! It was US against the world. The 3 muskateers , like in the movie the HOLIDAY. I poured every once of energy into them, while my paraplegic ex remarried twice after me. I have no regrets. They are wonderful. Happy you remarried. I want that someday. You asre right though I look at their young innocent faces & just want to snuggle with them.
      Blessings to you, Lisa

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  8. Im in the beginning of my storm and although i know God will deliver me every day is such a struggle, please keep me in your prayers..

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  9. Wow Lisa, what an inspiration you are!

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  10. I have a 3 year old daughter and i am a single mom. Reading your post gave me hope that I can do it on my own. Thanks.

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  12. Thank you Lisa for the inspiration. There is a lot to learn from this, being a single mom seems like a struggle, but the focus we have for our little ones makes us forget of the stresses we go through and seeing the little smile on their faces warms up our hearts and secondly having God as the pillar of strength makes it even more simpler to go through our situations.

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  13. Wow! So inspirational! I’m a single mother, too so I can totally relate. God will provide us with the strength and provision that we need to get through any obstacles. I’m so glad to see that you are mentoring other single women as well. What a blessing. God Bless.

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  14. Some say, ” Fake it to you make it,” or “A smile disguises a broken heart.” But I disagree. You don’t need to fake it. TRUST God will give you answers and the courage to daily walk forward. He gave me the special gift of the Holy Spirit to guide me daily on my journey through the good, the bad ,and downright ugly. Thank you for sharing this, and to this I say, AMEN

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  15. I loved reading this! I too am a single mom and am so content with where I am at in my life. I have found myself, and it’s been the most incredible and rewarding journey. God has been my sense of comfort and joy through it all. Thanks so much for sharing.

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  19. I became a single mom 2 weeks ago today. I felt more alone during my 20 years with him than I have in the past two weeks. I think God has a purpose for me being single, or going through this entire crazy process of everything this year. Just waiting to see what it is….

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    • Jami~
      I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am glad you are leaning on Him to give you the hope & strength you need. I felt alone in my marriage too. There is nothing worse than being alone in a relationship . Big hugs . Blessings to you as you walk forward in faith my sister. He does have a plan , as you know. wait patiently . He will reveal Hinself . read James 1 for guidance. Much love!

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  20. I really enjoyed reading this. I too am a single mom, with two children, all at the age of 21. Your post was inspiring and encouraging! Your children are beautiful!

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  21. Thank YOU! Blessings to you as you walk daily in faith. The journey is not easy but worth it! May you be able to find a little hope everyday.

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  22. Thank you for your amazing words. I am at the beginning of this single mom journey and it feels so overwhelming all the time. Your faith is inspiring!

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    • Lindsay~
      I am so sorry to hear this. My heart aches for you. the verse that sticks out that carried me thru my journey was Philippians 4:6 “Don’t worry about anything but pray about everything.” lifting you up today. begging God that you get a reprieve. Any specific prayers? If you want I have A FB page The Whisper within. It may be easier to follow there. I will check out your blog. Big hugs, Lisa

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  23. After going through much hardship and pain, reading your post was uplifting.

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